First of all let me begin by acknowledging that beauty is highly subjective. What you find attractive may not necessarily be appealing to someone. However lets imagine a scenario that will serve as the basis, for today's discussion. Imagine you're attending an event or a wedding. You come across an attractive woman who captivates your attention. You feel a desire to get to know her and possibly establish a connection with her.
Now here's my suggestion to increase your chances of getting closer to this woman; I strongly advise against approaching her. Trust me when I say it's best not to approach the woman in the room.
For men their experience tends to follow a pattern; as they notice an appealing woman from, across the room they become infatuated and their primal instinct pushes them towards walking over and introducing themselves.
However before he can proceed with his intention he becomes aware that he is not the individual who has taken notice of this captivating lady. There are men vying for her attention seemingly infatuated by her presence. She could be surrounded by a group of friends. Appears to revel in the admiration she receives. In this blog post I will provide reasons why it might not be advisable to approach the attractive woman in a given setting. By the end of this blog I will share techniques, for attracting women who have an abundance of options and may not even spare you a moments notice.
Lets begin by discussing five reasons why it can be beneficial to not approach her directly.
Firstly intrigue and mystery play a role.
By not displaying your interest you create an air of curiosity, around yourself. This can pique a womans interest. Make her more curious about you potentially leading to increased attraction. Women are natural beings so if she is genuinely single and looking she will wonder why you haven't shown her attention when other guys have been, over her. People tend to desire things when they perceive them as out of reach and the same principle applies to women. Keep this in mind.
Secondly, it's important to avoid appearing desperate or needy.
The last thing you want to do is give off an impression of desperation when trying to connect with a woman you're interested, in, like trying to get her number. If she realizes that you've already given away all your cards she might play the game of making you work hard and appear eager. Instead it's important to maintain a sense of independence and attractiveness by not coming across as ego driven or desperate. Being too desperate can make her feel overwhelmed and pressured, which is not what you want. Trust me it's better to let things develop naturally at a pace. If she seems to be the one taking the lead while you sit back and observe go with it.
Thirdly one effective approach is to not approach the attractive woman in the room.
This gives you an opportunity to gauge her interest and save yourself time, money and effort. By holding back your interest you can assess if she truly notices your presence or if she’s just seeking attention from others. If she does notice you and sees you as a partner there will be signs, like prolonged eye contact, laughter to capture your attention and other indicators. Even after you have made contact and exchanged numbers with her it's important to continue showing overt interest. If she continues to engage with you and pursues a connection despite your reserved approach it may indicate a more authentic connection, between both of you. Keep this in mind.
The fourth number does not come close, to reaching the heart.
When the first woman enters the room it can increase your worth if you demonstrate that you have standards and are selective about where or with whom you invest your time, energy and resources. This creates a sense of exclusivity. She will see you as someone with taste and discerning judgment, which enhances your value. By not showing interest you create the perception that you hold yourself to standards and are particular, about who you choose as a romantic partner.
Finally definitely bruise her self confidence
It might seem a bit harsh. It is not really when you come across women who are accustomed, to people constantly fawning over them. Remember, you shouldn't do the thing that every other guy has done. Women like these want to be praised for their appearance, and their curves and they thrive on compliments. So you need to find a way to demonstrate that you're different without being rude or falling into the patterns of guys in her life. Otherwise you'll end up facing the fate. If you manage to dent her ego a bit she'll come down from her pedestal. Start seeing eye to eye with you.
Now if approaching her directly is not an option or not advisable what should you do to grab her attention? Take a moment. Observe your competition in the room. You'll have to do the opposite of what every other guy's doing.
So how can you catch her attention without walking up and asking for her number?
I suggest playing this game instead;
Step one; Before leaving the location make sure you present yourself well and catch her attention.
Step two; Pay attention to whether she makes eye contact, with you at times as this is a strong indication of interest.
Step three; When she makes eye contact smile at her. Then look away. This shows that you are interested but not overly eager.
Step four; Once you are confident that you have caught her attention engage in conversations with other women. This will create a sense of proof subtly indicating to her that others find you appealing and worth pursuing. Make sure she notices that you are having a time without her.
Step five; Ask a waiter or bartender to give her your number. Craft a message that piques her curiosity, such, as mentioning your adventure together.
Step six; The final step should be taken within seven days after the meeting assuming she has shown interest by returning your call or reaching out to you. Give her a call back after 72 hours as part of this step.
So here's the thing, if a woman shows even the slightest interest in you after your first meeting, she'll most likely reach out to you via text or call within a few days or up to a week. Now, let's say she does contact you and you purposely don't respond for 72 hours. The idea here is that it will make her wonder and spark her curiosity whether you're equally interested in her or not. It's like giving her a little push to see if she bites. Once she takes the bait and reaches out to you again before the 72 hours are up, it's time for some serious flirting on your part. This is just to let her know that you do like her back and would love to get to know her more. Then, reset your own 72 hour clock again by not calling for another three days.
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By not calling for 72 hours initially, it creates an impression that you have other priorities in your life at this moment, even if that may not necessarily be true. It conveys that although you really like her, there are other things going on and goals to pursue as well. After those three days have passed without any communication from your side, give her a call and apologize for the silence. This is when the new relationship can truly begin.
Remember though, these mind games should be used with caution and genuine intentions. Building a healthy connection is important too.
To sum up, it's crucial to acknowledge that although these suggestions and techniques may be effective in specific situations, open communication and honesty are vital for establishing thriving and prosperous relationships. By openly expressing interest at the appropriate times, it can actually nurture improved comprehension, trust and a deeper bond between individuals. I genuinely hope you found these tips to be useful. If you managed to reach the end of the blog, please feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section below.