Regardless of whether a man's gay or straight they tend to be upfront, about their intentions from the beginning. It's up to you to decide whether to pursue a relationship with them or move on. If a man clearly states that he isn't interested in having a relationship with you it's essential to respect his decision. Neither time nor constant questioning will change his stance.
Men have a drive to seek attention and gain respect from their partners. If he genuinely wants you in his life he will make every effort to win your affection and keep your connection strong. Unlike women men often search for someone who can fulfill a void, within them; physical appearance has a bearing on this aspect in the long run.
I interviewed three men who are, in same sex relationships to find out what qualities they look for in a partner and what they don't prefer. Here's what they shared with me.
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Let's Start with the Single:
I sat down. Had a conversation, with a 22 year guy who is currently dating. He shared his preferences and dislikes when it comes to women.
- Preferences; He appreciates beauty, a sense of humor, independence, good hygiene, nice teeth, a fit body, nice hair and a great personality.
- Background; This young man is a fitness coach and a senior in college. Coming from a town he values health greatly. He also runs his business so he finds it attractive when women have their lives together and possess an appealing personality since he himself tends to be shy.
- Dislikes; He doesn't like makeup; instead he prefers the look. It's not about appearances for him; he desires someone whose personality shines brighter than their looks. Being overly dependent or acting helpless is unattractive to him. Additionally long lashes aren't something that appeals to him.
- In summary; This man's aversion, to makeup extends beyond appearance. He values substance behind the looks. Depending much on him for everything is putting; instead he seeks someone who can stand on their own feet with confidence.
I also had a conversation, with a 21 year individual who is currently not seeking a relationship. During our discussion I inquired about his preferences and opinions regarding women.
- Preferences; He mentioned that he appreciates someone who brings joy into his life someone he can connect with on a level and someone who can fulfill the roles of both a friend and a romantic partner.
- Background; There's this college football player who has a jam packed schedule, with practices, games and events. He is not actively seeking love. He'll definitely make time for someone he really connects with. Looks aren't the priority for him; personality is what matters most.
- Dislikes; He doesn't appreciate it when someone constantly complains about not being featured on media nags him about spending time with friends is insecure or continually complains about spending quality time
- Breakdown; You see male college athletes naturally have a level of fame and recognition around campus because of their prowess. People are always watching them. Trying to control how they spend their time. That's why finding someone who is supportive becomes crucial to them. As for flaunting their relationship on media, it is like a show; what's already known doesn't need constant showcasing.
Next for Those In a relationship;
I have this friend who has been in a relationship with his high school sweetheart, for six years.
- Likes; He appreciates when someone pays attention to the things that matter to him understands his love language and knows how to keep him happy.
- Background; They've been together since their sophomore year of school. Managed to stick together even through college. They've gone on trips together spent time with each others families and even lived under the roof.
- Dislikes; It bothers her when she feels down and starts contradicting herself.
- Explanation; He mentioned that relationships have their ups and downs. He has found a partner, with whom he's willing to face those challenges together.
I asked someone who has been in an on and off relationship about their preferences and dislikes, in their situation.
- Likes; They enjoy feeling comfortable having support and having someone they can rely on.
- Background; He has been, in relationships with women. None of them provided him with the same sense of security that he feels with his current partner.
- Dislikes; Being overly clingy and women who are too dependent.
- Advice; Couples who frequently break up and get back together should avoid getting emotionally attached.
Lastly LGBTQ+;
I had a conversation with my cousin about how he navigates the dating scene in the city.
- Likes; individuals with a sense of style, unique personalities, passion for life and a drive to succeed.
- Background; He came out as gay four years when he started college and has been flourishing in the fashion industry since.
- Dislikes; Lack of ambition, laziness and absence of style.
- Advice; Be true to yourself. Live authentically.
My friend has been searching for love for quite some time. He's intelligent and talented. Has fashion sense. I asked him about his preferences when it comes to men.
- Likes; Confidence, a sense of humor emotional self awareness, respectful demeanor, ambitious nature and someone who values family.
- Background; He's a romantic who believes that finding love is about contribution rather, than one sided efforts.
- Dislikes; If someone lacks any of those qualities mentioned above
- Advice; When you know what you want in a partner go after it.
The valuable suggestion I can offer is to avoid attempting to decipher what your partner desires, from you. When they truly belong with you there won't be any confusion or contrived expectations.