You may not consciously recognize these emotions every day. They are blocking you and taking away valuable emotional energy that could be devoted, to experiencing more happiness, ease and contentment.
Sometimes when you haven't processed your emotions they may manifest as anger, towards your loved ones or an amount of resentment or judgment, towards strangers.
Your emotions when trapped can hinder aspects of your life. They act as a blockage, in the depths of your mind.
These emotions limit your ability to connect with others impact your relationships and prevent you from experiencing daily joy. However it's important to note that you're not entirely to blame for this situation. Society has encouraged you to suppress your emotions because it makes you an easier target for manipulation and sales tactics. There is an interest, in keeping you feeling stagnant and unhappy.
Today marks the end of that cycle.
By acknowledging and processing your trapped energy you will gain the freedom and permission to live without the lingering effects of emotions.
If you engage in the steps outlined below if a few times within the next month you will experience a noticeable and significant sensation of lightness. The physical tension, in your body will. Your relationships will improve instantly.
I want to emphasize that I have no motive or product to sell at the conclusion of this article. My sole intention is for you to discover the freedom that comes with shedding emotional baggage.
However I must provide a warning; this process does not involve any magical mindset shift where one sentence miraculously solves all your challenges. It requires following the instructions presented here and dedicating a couple of hours towards it. Be prepared as there might be moments when you need to release some pent up emotions. Keep some tissues handy.
If your emotions have been conditioned over time to believe that they won't receive your attention it might take time for them to trust you again. Merely intending to acknowledge and process your feelings does not guarantee that they will readily surface for you.
This process requires some patience. The longer it has been since you last truly connected with your emotions the time it will take for them to reveal themselves to you. Here are some effective methods to encourage and bring out challenging emotions.
Here are five ways to fully release emotions that may be hindering you from finding love;
1. Minimize distractions
Create a space dedicated to processing your emotions. Turn off your phone, tablet, computer or any other device that could interrupt your state. Select a time when you can fully delve into your feelings without any disturbances.
2. Find stillness
To allow emotional turbulence to rise to the surface it's important to find stillness. Emotions flow through bodies. Whether you choose to lie or sit comfortably is, up to you; just ensure that you are in a position and that your major muscle groups are not tense.
3. Take breaths
Use your breath as a bridge, between your mind and body. Take breaths allowing the air to expand into every part of your body. As you do this pay attention if there are any areas where physical tension is being held in your body.
Relax your shoulders by releasing any tension. Allow your tongue to naturally rest in your mouth without touching the roof. Take a moment to unwind your legs letting go of any tightness or stiffness. Inhale deeply filling every part of your body with breath. Pay attention to the sensations that arise within you. Remember not to judge whatever thoughts or emotions come up during this process.
4. Locate your emotions in your body
Take a moment to become aware of any sensations, in your body that may indicate emotions. You might find that certain areas of your body feel more tense than others or you can identify emotions by the way they feel.
For example you may notice sensations like "I feel anxiousness in my throat " "There's a heaviness of sadness, in the pit of my stomach ". I sense anger in my chest." It's important to remember that there is no right or wrong good or bad when it comes to these observations. They are simply what they are. If possible try verbalizing your discoveries saying "I'm experiencing grief in my heart") to give validation and acknowledgment beyond just your thoughts.
5. Express gratitude
Now with the emotions you have discovered express your gratitude for their presence and, for allowing you to acknowledge them. It's important to convey your appreciation in a way that feels authentic to you.
For instance you could say something like "I am grateful for the opportunity to witness your presence, sadness " or "Thank you for revealing yourself to me, anger." To further emphasize your acceptance consider adding phrases such, as "You are welcome here " or "Feel free to stay as you need to my dear friend."
The objective is to welcome these emotions into your consciousness just as you would warmly receive a cherished guest in your home. Show them grace, compassion and kindness.
Once you have identified and possibly labeled the emotions that reside within your body it's time to delve deeper into them and allow them to flow through you.
Don't forget, if you're going through a journey and aren't sure of the specific emotions you're experiencing that's perfectly fine.
You don't have to identify an emotion in order to feel it. In fact the following steps can help intensify the emotion and make it clearer as you go through the process.
Here's how to amplify the intensity of your emotions;
1. Embrace their growth
Now that you've acknowledged the emotions, within your body it's time to encourage them to expand within you. The key is to accept their presence and give them your attention for a moment. Its resisting their existence within you that has kept them stagnant for long.
Encourage their growth by saying things like "Thank you please reveal more " or "Its safe for these feelings, like sadness to come " Treat these emotions as if they were an trusted friend.
Be kind and supportive. Let the emotion develop within you even if it means allowing it to increase gradually by 5 percent increments.
2. Take a moment to give your emotions some space.
If you find that expressing your emotions only goes far it might be beneficial to give them more room to breathe. Take breaths. Consciously allow those specific emotions to spread throughout your entire body.
For instance if you're experiencing anxiety, in your stomach and throat mentally let that anxiety encompass your torso and eventually your body. Give it permission to fully consume you while you surrender yourself to its presence.
Remember emotions are not permanent. Even if this exercise brings discomfort it will be worthwhile because you will have dedicated all of your attention to the emotion allowing it the opportunity to finally release itself from, within.
3. Express gratitude. Invite exploration.
Continue taking breaths while offering words of encouragement. Keep expanding and intensifying the emotion throughout your body.
"You have a place, for feelings of sadness, anxiety, grief or jealousy... Can you share more? How would it feel to experience emotions? I'm curious to see. I'm open, to it. Thank you."
4. Get moving
If you're feeling stuck or stagnant at this point in the process it's perfectly fine to stand up stretch your body and let your emotions guide you. This is also a time to try trauma release exercises (or TRE) to help release tension.
If you're not familiar, with trauma release exercises it involves inducing trembling in your body to shake off built up stress and tension. One simple way to do this is by lying flat on your back, with your feet touching and knees spread apart. Then slowly bring your knees together until they start trembling and maintain that position to continue the tremoring. Congratulations! You've just performed a trauma release exercise.
5. Keep breathing
Remember, whether you're practicing TRE encouraging your emotions to expand within your body through expression or simply letting yourself cry while lying down it's important to keep taking breaths. Your conscious breathing helps the emotions flow throughout your body.
6. Accept your emotions without judgment
If you find yourself overwhelmed, with anger and feel the need to release it by hitting a pillow against your bed go ahead and do so. If screaming into a pillow, out of frustration helps you cope that's perfectly acceptable. And if holding yourself and crying uncontrollably is what you need in that moment allow yourself to do so without any judgment.
It's perfectly okay to experience whatever emotions you're feeling. Just let them be, without any judgment.
There's no way to approach this exercise. Your process might feel momentarily disrupted by an emotion but it never truly gets interrupted. The main objective of this process is to give space and acceptance to whatever feelings arise.
If you experience numbness it's okay to embrace that feeling. If sadness arises give yourself permission to experience it fully. There's no order or right way to navigate these emotions. Just allow yourself to be present, with whatever arises, in its time.
Your sole objective is to let your emotions unfold naturally.
Eventually you may feel like your emotional processing session has reached its end. Whether you've spent a few minutes or several hours embracing your feelings doesn't matter. The important thing is that you've shown self compassion by making an effort to acknowledge and feel your suppressed emotions. That alone deserves recognition and praise.
Here are some steps you can follow to take care of yourself after going through processing;
1. Dry your tears.
Let them naturally dry on your face. Take care of yourself in a way that feels comforting and nurturing to you.
2. Treat yourself gently.
Indulge, in a bath savor some dark chocolate rest for a while wrap yourself up in your favorite cozy blanket or engage in any self care activities that resonate with you. Trust your instincts. Choose the caring and compassionate actions that align with your needs.
3. Reflect on your experience by writing in a journal or discussing it with a friend.
Did you discover any insights during your processing? Did you uncover the root cause of your suffering? Did any painful memories resurface? Make sure to jot down notes in your diary, journal or even, in the notepad app on your phone for reference.
If you're not much of a writer consider reaching out to a trusted friend and having a conversation about what you've experienced.
4. Take action based on any self discoveries.
Did you identify someone to whom you'd like to apologize for behavior? Have you realized that some aspect of your life (such as relationships, work, lifestyle choices or health habits) is out of alignment?
If new possibilities have emerged from your reflection now might be the time to take action and implement what you've learned. However if these realizations involve life changes, like selling your house moving cities or ending a relationship it could be wise to sleep on it and make decisions with a head when you wake up.Whether its your attempt or you've done it times before giving yourself the opportunity to experience and process your emotions is a profoundly self caring act.. If you wish to make this a regular habit feel free to save this article for use.