My goal is to help you understand how technology can be used to your advantage in situations where you suspect a partner may be cheating. However it's important to note that the information I'll be discussing is intended for awareness and educational purposes. Please be aware that there may be laws, in your country that restrict or prohibit the use of solutions. Additionally it's crucial to understand that using these methods for unreasonable or malicious purposes is a violation of privacy and can cause significant emotional and psychological harm to the targeted individuals. Please proceed with caution. Use them at your risk.
So there are types of software designed to monitor and track someone's activities on their mobile device or computer without their knowledge or consent. These tools are often used by individuals to spy on their partners, ex partners or other people they wish to monitor. It's important to note that such actions are illegal, in jurisdictions and are considered as a form of abuse or harassment.
In this blog post I'll share six ways you can uncover infidelity using technology without spending much or any money. Let us get started!
Step One: Search every letter of the alphabet
So here's how it works in a manner. It involves using someone's search history against them which means that individuals who use cheats would have to be quite foolish not to clear their search histories on their web browsers. If they regularly visit dating sites for example they would probably think about covering their tracks. However remembering to do that can be challenging for people nowadays. Now if your partner utilizes search engines, like Google you'll quickly discover that Google does a job of predicting your search parameters based on everything you've previously searched for. Let us say you share a computer with your suspected partner; all you need to do is go to google.com and type the letter "A" into the search bar. You'll immediately see all the things your partner has searched for starting with the letter "A." From there you can continue your search with letters like "B " "C," "D," and so on. You might be surprised by some of the things your partner searches for, ranging from dating sites, to things that's perhaps unspeakable. All I can say is, be prepared for anything.
Step Two: Secret messages and online documents
One of the behaviors, for individuals who cheat is sending photos and videos to their affair partners. Cheaters often enjoy reliving these moments in their minds. Tend to keep things as mementos or for easy reference. If you ever talk to someone who has been caught cheating by their partner they will likely mention that their partner discovered a message, picture or something similar. So how do cheaters hide their wrongdoings in this day and age? You'd be surprised to know that the tactics they employ aren't even that sophisticated. There are applications that can make certain pictures appear as if they are documents. Similarly there are apps that allow you to password protect your text messages and photos. While these methods may not be groundbreaking they still serve as ways, for people involved in infidelity to conceal their actions.
To bypass detection you can access Google documents on your own or a shared computer or phone. These online documents may appear as Microsoft 365 files, at a glance like a monthly budget file filled with numbers and corporate jargon. However scrolling down reveals their purpose. They are being utilized covertly to share notes, videos and photos with someone. It requires intelligence. Caution to navigate this method.
Step Three: So check the phone's locations
As our reliance, on GPS grows it may be tempting to check your partner's location history if they're a Google user with Gmail. Unless this feature is disabled Google will regularly send you an email with your Google timeline. This feature allows you to easily track your whereabouts on any given day for a number of months. For instance if you search for your trip to Cancun in January 2023 chances are that Google has those records readily available in your timeline email.
To access your partner's location history simply enter "location history" in the search bar above their email. If they have location services enabled on their phone you'll be able to see all the places they've been over the weeks. It's worth noting that iPhone users have a place to check for locations; go to Settings > Privacy > Location Services > System Services > Significant Locations. Disabling or deleting these settings requires some effort so if there's any activity it's likely that you'll find something.
Please remember that privacy and trust are aspects of any relationship and it is important to have communication and consent when discussing matters such, as tracking location history.
Step Four: Secretly Recording when you're away
If you suspect something serious is happening behind your back one method you could consider is discreetly recording audio when you are not present or when you're away, from home.
Step Five: You want to go through their trash and recycle bin
Well if you have any knowledge, about the technology you probably understand that when you delete items they usually aren't completely gone. You see, a computer trash or recycle bin holds onto these items until you empty the bin. With cloud services like Dropbox you can restore items from the trash. Similarly deleted emails accumulate in the trash until they're permanently removed. As for voicemails on an iPhone they may be. Can still be retrieved if needed. Oh. Don't forget that apps deleted from your phone can also be restored.
However here's something interesting to consider; even though many people who cheat are quick to delete incriminating stuff, from places they often forget about their recycle bin or trash folder. That's why I believe that if you suspect something fishy is going on those forgotten folders might just contain evidence of infidelity. I understand it can be quite time consuming to uncover proof of cheating. Sometimes desperation leads us to do things. Just remember to take care of yourself throughout this process.
Step Six: Apps can hide secret calls and text messages
I'm pretty sure some of you are already aware that, in the world yeah. People often go to lengths to conceal their indiscretions. Unless your partner is particularly daring you won't easily find a chat app, on their home screen. Discover messages in their text message folder. Interestingly there are apps that appear innocent but serve as a disguise for sharing messages photos, videos and more. One particular app that caught my attention resembles a calculator. I won't endorse it. It is worth mentioning because this calculator secretly saves texts and call logs of contacts.
To gain insight into the apps your partner uses and how frequently they use them I suggest checking their screen time report. Look for any patterns or behaviors. For example it might seem odd if someone spends four hours per week using a calculator app. On an iPhone checking screen time and usage is simple; go to settings > screen time > choose "see all activity" > select the week option. This will provide a summary of usage which can be further explored by tapping on days for daily summaries.
If you want to check app usage on an Android device navigate to settings > wellbeing and parental controls dashboard to view screen times for each app used. The screen time feature shows which apps have been active on the screen and for how they were used, offering you a way to make educated guesses, about how your partners phone is being utilized.
Conclusion
I understand that it can be overwhelming. When dealing with a cheater it is essential to stay of the game. If you do happen to uncover something remember to consider your moves before confronting them. Approach the situation calmly and seriously as being aggressive may cause them to become defensive and less willing to admit their infidelity.